I have not written much about Ben’s tantrums or other troubling behaviors.
Partly (and thankfully) this is because for maybe nine months or so, incidents have been relatively mild and infrequent.
Over the course of this school year, the rate of behavior issues seems to be at an appropriate level for a four-year-old. Mostly, he just does things like shout at the top of his lungs, “I DOOOOOOOON’T WANT TO TAKE A BAAAAAATH!!!!!!”
This, I can handle.
But that isn't the whole story.
I've tried to write about behavior issues, and the truth is, it's really, really hard. It’s not that I don’t have reflections and ideas and things I want to share.
In fact, I have several unfinished posts that I’ve abandoned midway through. I just gave up on trying to explain or describe those times when he seems out of control and doesn’t bear much resemblance to the happy, goofy, easy-going kid that I’m used to.
As this past school year came to a close, the frequency of Ben’s tantrums increased, and he’s had several incidents of aggressive behavior toward other students in his afternoon preschool program.
So I decided that I need to write about this as a way to understand it better. And perhaps as a way to engage some of you in discussion, and maybe get ideas and advice - or at least perspective.
It’s going to take a series of posts because it feels so complicated and convoluted and encompasses several different themes that I can’t possibly tie together in a single post.
So bear with me on a multi-part journey into the darker side.