Regular readers may have noticed posts have slowed to a drip lately. But that doesn't mean that our lives are uneventful.
Ben finished Kindergarten and is now, in the parlance of his schoolmates, "a grader." The year ended with, among other things, a tearful goodbye between him and his amazing aide who (sniff) is leaving next year to complete her master's degree. She cried and hugged him. Ben wiped away her tears and told her, "I love you."
He's running with the NTs this summer at his former Montessori school with several kids he knew from preschool. When he arrived, they actually jostled and shoved each other out of the way in order to be the first to hug him. The staff have all remarked on how much he's grown, matured and mellowed out since they saw him last summer.
Not every moment is rosy, of course. I could have done without the 3 a.m. visit to the ER with croup, for starters. But there have been way more ups than downs and no classic summer regression and that's pretty damn good.
There's a small group of parents-writers-advocates extraordinaire that I've had the great fortune to get to know over the past couple of years who have started a blog and book project called The Thinking Person's Guide to Autism. They're publishing amazing essays and no-nonsense resources - a new one every weekday! - and I'm honored to have a guest post on their site. I've written about the joys and complications of having a child who "passes" for typical.
Over the last several months, my focus has shifted from blogging to a project that's in the early stages: something I promise to write about very soon.
It's a leap of faith, inspired by the mindset that is captured in this post by Dave Holmes that I found via my Twitter feed (where people you hardly know point you to great content from people you don't know at all!) He nicely nails the necessity of being aggressive with your big ideas, even if it seems crazy. And this is a mindset that's quite foreign to me at this stage in my life.
Pretend you’re giving it all up and going back to school in a year. Act like you have one year to make it work before you give up and try something else. What haven’t you done? Where aren’t you being aggressive enough? Go do it and embarrass yourself with your pushiness- after all, you’ll be doing something else in a year anyway, so who cares what people think? Push until you feel uncomfortable, and then double it.
The trick is: when you do that, good things start happening right away, and you get yourself to a point where you can’t imagine giving up, one year from now or ever.
Good things are happening. Stay tuned.